These qualities say: with the years you not only mature, but you also gain wisdom.
1. Ability to introspect
You can look at your life with the eyes of an outsider and take a neutral stance to evaluate your actions, thoughts and emotions. This approach allows you to better understand your strengths and weaknesses and decide which direction to take next.
You think first, and then do; you can calculate the expediency and consequences of actions. An infantile person lives with emotions and immediate desires. A mature person does not burst into tears at his or her relatives, and can keep silent if a silly conflict arises.
You have learned to be grateful for what happened to you, and what you were able to avoid. You have appreciated the people who make you happy, and you don’t take them for granted.
You stopped judging books by their covers and people by formal attributes and stereotypes, not by word of mouth. Teenage maximalism no longer prevents you from realizing that the world is not black and white, people around you can be different from you and remain good, and that sometimes there are several correct opinions.
5. Constructing boundaries
You understand what is acceptable to you in a relationship – love, friendship, work – and how far you are willing to go, what you are willing to sacrifice to keep them. And if someone violates boundaries, you will act, discuss, not pretend that nothing happened and everyone lives that way.
6. Persistent moral standards
You do not look at your actions through the prism of “what people will think” or “what if someone sees. A mature person has defined moral boundaries. It is not the inevitability of punishment or possible condemnation that warns him against wrong actions, but a clear awareness that it is unacceptable. Therefore, he does not do things that are questionable for him, even if no one sees or knows.
You are responsible for your words and actions, you do not promise the unfulfillable, you do not shift decisions to another. A mature person recognizes that the quality of their life is entirely their responsibility. Outside circumstances can make adjustments. But if you keep complaining that things are bad, but do nothing to change the situation, then you are more of an infantile person than a victim of circumstance.
8. Accepting yourself
You have learned to accept yourself as you are, with all your strengths and weaknesses. This does not mean that you should stop improving and correcting your shortcomings. But it’s worth learning to be content with yourself now, at any stage of the path to perfection, because this road has no end and it’s frustrating to spend your whole life hating and reproaching yourself.
You stopped counting only on instant results and learned to wait for the fruits of your labor. For some things to happen, it is not enough to want them-you have to work hard. And even that doesn’t guarantee that you will get what you want.
You understand that no one has to solve your problems. A mature person doesn’t act on chance in the hope that someone will help you swim out of the abyss. To spend money on a trinket and leave the family without food, thinking that parents or friends will slip some money – it is infantilism. Adjusting your behavior so that in the case of a problem situation you will be able to solve it on your own is the act of a mature person.
11. The ability to learn lessons
One learns from mistakes, but not all. A mature person learns lessons from failures, recognizes similar situations and avoids repeated failures.
12. Constructive engagement with reality
You don’t run away from problems, you don’t close your eyes to them, you don’t think they will somehow resolve themselves. A mature person acknowledges difficulties and looks for ways to cope with them.
Most of the time you don’t think you need to lie. On the road to maturity, you have surrounded yourself with people with whom this is not required: you don’t have to wear masks and embellish reality. If you do have to lie, the mature person is aware of why they are doing it. Lying to protect one’s feelings and a desire to manipulate others are not the same thing.
14. The skill of relationship building
The mature person is aware that they are not the center of the universe, so they know how to build equitable partnerships in which they not only take but also give. He is able to provide compassion, support, attention and genuine interest, and accept help without feeling vulnerable.
15. Realistic-optimistic view of the world
You are realistic about the situation, but do not lose faith in the best and presence of mind. A mature person understands that good things cannot happen all the time; there are setbacks. But black bars end, especially if you do not give up. However, pessimism and defeatist attitudes can lead to a lack of strength to rejoice even on truly bright days.