You’ll save a lot of energy, time, and money in the future if you start working on yourself now.
1. Don’t leave yourself any loopholes
Imagine a person who wants to stop eating sweets or drinking alcohol. He promises himself to abstain all day and only in the evening eat a small piece of dessert or have a few drinks. As a result, all day long he cannot think about anything else. Because of this, it is a hundred times harder to get rid of the bad habit completely.
If you really want to change your behavior, give up the idea that you can do something 98% of the time.
Consistency is essential, otherwise you will always be wasting energy trying to motivate yourself. You will promise yourself to change, but always leave a loophole. It’s like you convince yourself in advance that you can’t do it.
But you’re stronger than you think. You don’t need any loopholes, you can do it anyway. Of course, in the process of self-improvement it will be hard for you, it will feel like you’re killing a part of yourself. You are: you’re killing off the old parts so that the new parts can grow and flourish.
2. Change one part of your life so you can change all the others
A positive change in one area of life, even a small one, is a powerful impetus. The main thing is to use the motivation to change other areas of life, day by day. For example, ask yourself every day: “Have I improved at least 1% in my physical, emotional, psychological and mental health?”
The better you get, the more you want to improve further. The more you learn, the more you realize you still have more to learn. The realization that you are better today than you were yesterday is encouraging. Just imagine what you can achieve tomorrow!
It doesn’t matter if you don’t know where to start. The main thing is to start somewhere. Yes, change doesn’t happen all at once, but it starts with one action.
3. Believe that you can accomplish anything
You will not achieve more than what you believe you can achieve. So the first thing to do is to change your beliefs. Ask yourself:
- Do I have big enough goals? (And do I even have long-term goals?)
- What would happen if I increased them tenfold?
- Do I believe in my success? Or am I just pretending?
Deep down, most people don’t believe their lives can be extraordinary. Their ideal future just doesn’t seem like a justifiable goal to strive for. But if you want to change your habits and evolve, you need to believe that you can become a better person. Try to imagine something bigger and better than what you have now, and strive for it.
4. Change your environment
We used to think that our desire alone was enough to break habits that had been built up over the years. But when your environment remains unchanged, don’t expect your behavior to change significantly.
Of course, changing your surroundings is not easy. You may even find it impossible to change some aspects of it-it’s only natural. Start with what you can change. For example, don’t tolerate mediocrity and those who are willing to put up with it.
5. Make slightly better decisions every day
The main problem is that we can’t wait to see the results. Little incremental progress doesn’t feel like progress to us. This is often the reason why attempts to change are thwarted. Seeing no quick results, people give up and go back to their old habits.
But human beings are incredibly flexible. You can adapt and change almost anything about yourself. The perfect life, as you imagine it, is possible. To get better and get what you want, just make better decisions day in and day out than you did yesterday.